148. Why “Having It All” Can Be Counter-Productive
I think that most of us are off of the conversation about “having it all”. But ironically, I’ve seen some sound bites come back again. There’s two schools of thought with this. One is that you can have it all, and another is that you can’t. Typically, we’re much more inspired about having it all, so I get that we gravitate towards this. But there’s a very specific asterisk on this concept, in my opinion.
When we want to “have it all”, I find that a lot of times we’re talking about a description which is partially inauthentic to us. We sort of dream or idolize a certain scenario. Maybe one that we’ve seen on TV and movies. Perhaps we’re turning to conditioning. We simply think that we need to have it all, because others do. Or because it’s expected of us. But what do we truly want?
I truly believe that whatever we truly desire, which is authentic to us in this lifetime, we can have. Otherwise, we would not desire it. And that extent, is achievable. But when we start to add in all of these extra things which we may feel pressured to do, it becomes inauthentic. Our energetic bodies, our guides, our subconscious self and conscious self all have a plan. We incarnate with a purpose. Although we are typically building that reality with our free will, the undercurrent of our intentions and conceptual/thematic achievements in this lifetime are sort of pre-planned, give or take. Meaning that we have so much ability to grow and be creative, but there’s still a baseline intention end of the day. We would not incarnate with an “impossible” task or circumstance/situation. It just doesn’t happen.
So, my perspective is that you can have it all, but it’s only everything that you want at a certain point or place in time, or throughout this lifetime. If you find yourself so incredibly overwhelmed, it’s likely that you’re holding on to something which doesn’t serve you. This doesn’t mean that you won’t always be totally strapped for time, or face really difficult challenges, but if the entire weight of the world is on your shoulders and you just can’t do everything, something really needs to change. The intention of incarnating on this earth is not to race to the finish line, but to have value and enjoy it. And to provide to ourselves and others. It’s not to destroy ourselves or run ourselves down.
If we think about it, there’s only so much energy that we can provide ourselves, others and really anything and everything else. To go so deeply 100% into even one thing, can be a lifelong venture. However, our impact or our learnings/educations associated with it, are perfectly intended and authentic in this lifetime. It’s often why there are certainly specialists and experts, but people tend to have more well-founded lives, at least nowadays. It’s just more productive for our energetic bodies, and it allows for more value and enjoyment. This entire topic becomes counter productive when we make a decision that we need to do it all, because we’re “supposed to”. It’s energetically impossible to do everything, and perhaps even, some of what we are perceiving we want to do right now or in the future. The universe has a way of sifting out the bullshit, and putting us on a path which is more healthy, holistic, and beneficial for ourselves and others. Some things just become less important, and they go by the wayside.
I’m not sure if this provides you with either frustration, or peace. To me, it provides me with peace. I become super over inundated with things I think I need to do. It’s sometimes hard for me to resonate with what I feel needs to be done. I think part of that is because the energetic significance of things changes so rapidly, and honestly, it’s hard to keep up. Perhaps that’s where some of the anxiety comes in. Particularly with how fast our society moves, it seems like you can never keep up. I think that when you’re searching for your purpose, it’s hard to know what’s a “waste” of time. This is where intuition alignment is important, of course.
To sum it up, I think it’s important to have a level of peace that what you want and desire is accomplishable and achievable in this lifetime. It’s just about discerning in relation to your authentic self, as well as being adaptable as time goes on. It’s ok to rearrange, or re-plan. Obviously there are some things which are physically “irreversible” so to speak, but nothing is energetically irreversible. You can always reroute your life and your future to be what you want it to be. Will it always look 100% like you planned? Likely not. But you always, under any circumstance, have a given right to feel the way that you want to feel. But that comes with perhaps, letting go of some things which no longer serve you.
I feel like I’ve strayed away from the point. I am certainly not the expert of having it all, or lack of, but I hope that I can channel energy reasonably well. And I have faith that we are guided int eh right direction to receive and reciprocate energy. No need to stress about potentially having it all, or not. It will simply find you, if you just “be”.
