43. What To Do When You Have No One
I will have succeeded with my work when I can help at least one person overcome the challenge of having “nothing”. Although in life it’s virtually impossible to have absolutely nothing, since my work is specifically intuition-based, I like to consider myself someone who helps others even when they’re “trapped in a box”. In other words, no sage, crystals, singing bowls, etc. None of their creature comforts. How do you go on with life when you just have yourself? Will you ever be in a situation like that? Maybe. Probably not. But sometimes when your loved ones and your loved “things” are pulled away from you, at times, it can feel that you have nothing left.
It’s an incredibly complex and delicate situation. The initial overcome is likely the shock value. Perhaps the identity crisis. And not to mention the fear of going on or moving out without them, that thing, or perhaps even, your past self.
Even though it feels impossible, the most vital component is having faith and optimism. From a spiritual perspective, faith and optimism are some of the only things getting you from point a to point b. In other words, from the lowest end of the vibrational spectrum to the highest. If fact, I truly believe that in some of the lowest versions of the astral realm(s), the only way you can escape is through the radical thought that something or someone can be better. It seems impossible, but yet simultaneously, so simple. I think the hardest thing to overcome is the lack of knowledge, wisdom, insight into the future, or perhaps the idea of a future, trajectory or version of ourself that is not our own. Who would we be if we were to be a completely different person? But wouldn’t we have to be, to get out of our current circumstance? It’s incredibly tricky, but again, so obvious at the same time.
One of the most challenging predicaments one can be in is to be totally alone. Perhaps someone is isolated without friends or family, and does not have the resources to access a licensed professional. It would of course be priority to do so as licensed professionals can provide immediate, customized and personalized care, but it’s not always an option. One of the most important things to consider is the concept of positive and negative emotions acting as physical “orbs” amongst our energetic bodies. If we begin or continue to repress emotions, they exist stagnant and dormant within ourselves. They serve to only cloudy/muddle our judgment and enforce a future of collecting like experiences (based on law of attraction). They just generally don’t serve us, and it’s in our best interest to proactively transmute them. But how do we do that without having a conversation? You can still acknowledge negative energy and fear to yourself. By simply saying it out loud, or thinking it. Consider what you are scared of, afraid of, or nervous about. Express yourself truly and authentically. It may actually be challenging, as it can be scary to admit it. But once it’s out, you have set this energy “free”, which allows the universe to proactively transmute it for you. By expressing yourself daily, even if it’s to yourself, you do a lot more good than harm. It can be not only therapeutic, but allow you to guide yourself for the future by being honest with yourself, but over time eliminating any nonsense weighing you down.
Your spirit guides are available to you 24/7 regardless of your life circumstances. They are on the other side to guide you. When you feel alone, they are at your disposal. Although we don’t always hear, see or feel them directly, we can certainly open a line of communication. Consider asking your spirit guides to help you achieve your goals, even if it’s simply to get through the day. Ask to receive “signs” to know you’re heading in the right direction.
While this is more of an advanced step if you’re not entirely in a good point and place in time, starting to face your fears is an integral step. What are you afraid of? This doesn’t need to be a physical item or object, but it can be an overarching concept or theme. Are you perhaps afraid of moving forward? Success? Happiness? Often times people are afraid of positive things simply because they’re unknown, or we revert back to negative experiences laddering up to this theme. That’s why it’s so important to proactively transmute these negative experiences through acknowledgement, acceptance, and seeking out positive experiences related to it in order to proactively transmute this old, negative or stagnant energy.
It’s important to have a level of acceptance as to why you have no one. Was it due to circumstances such as distance, death(s) or irreconcilable differences/growing apart? Perhaps finances have something to do with it. But perhaps there’s something blocking you as well. Perhaps some walls up which make you inaccessible to others? Whether that’s through intentional or unintentional means. It’s important to take on a level of responsibility in regards to relationship(s). At the end of the day, they are all about compromise. If you’d like to continue have others in your life in a meaningful, respectful and intimate way, start reflecting and intention setting. If you seem to continue to fall into a similar pattern of unlucky relationships, it’s possible you have some unhealed negative experiences holding you back. Relationships require work, including the relationship you have with yourself.
Don’t give up… seriously. As we go through life we ebb and flow. By practicing good habits each day, it can become easier to combat loneliness and relationship issues. Don’t let things pile up, as it can be particularly overwhelming and challenging to face them. If you are having relationship issues, consider the philosophy of overarching themes. If one particular relationship is giving you grief, work on others. By proxy, it should lift your vibration and help you tackle the more challenging one(s).
