108. Obsession With Appearance Stems From Spiritual Dissonance

Hear me out. I don’t feel that our ability to “modify” our appearances is alway indicative of some larger problem. But it is quite interesting to digest. When we think about our physical appearance, we have a pretty good idea of what we’re talking about. Perhaps we want to be more attractive, more fit. We typically want to fit into beauty standards, or perhaps not by choice. But the concept of an “appearance” is more than that. An “appearance” is more than physical. It can also be a mental and emotional mask that we “wear” around others. Typically both of these ideas coincide. If one has an issue with their physical appearance, they may have an issue with their mental or emotional mask or “appearance” as well.

So what does this all mean. Well. I do truly feel that our physical appearance strongly coincides with mental and emotional. I do feel that some of our “traits” coincide back and forth. In other words, a mental or emotional characteristic may show outward into a physical manifestation, or in other words, what we look like. This can simply be our wardrobe style, or it can also be the physical “shape” that we take on. As a result, although society pressures us to modify ourselves in relation to the beauty standard, we can also be cross energetically “appearing” a certain way to convince others that we are what we… may not be. After all, when we choose to show off our appearance, it’s not only a reflection of ourself, but what we want others to perceive us as. If we are lacking in a certain character trait, it’s likely that we may “form” an inauthentic facade of it, in order to fool others. While this isn’t a bad thing, as it often times is necessary to sort of “fit in” for a portion of time, it’s not something you want to be taking with you long-term, as it may ultimately become counter productive or detrimental, as it no longer serves you spiritually. It also of course, reinforces what others perceive to be the “right” thing, rather than the most authentic thing. I feel that it’s natural that we experiment with our appearances. But theoretically, it would be “ideal” to get to a place where no modifications are necessary. Our appearances are simply a natural extension of ourself. While it may not seem good, authentic or realistic, I find that it… kind of is? Perhaps that’s controversial, but I believe it to be true. And if everyone was more authentic with their appearance, I find that they may be not only more true to themselves, but their energy may even encourage others to think, feel and do the same. It’s important that we don’t perpetuate obsession with appearances, as this is more likely to create a “faux” or false identification process. I think that there is quite a thin line between being the best version of yourself and not modifying yourself completely. Hopefully each and every one of us can resonate with whatever that means for us.

Consider your appearance and your attributes. What does it say about you, or what does it “speak” on your behalf? Is there a reason why you’re fighting it? Or changing it? What is the “reason” it makes you feel good? Perhaps every answer is incredibly unique to you. But I find that there’s much power in being yourself. I find that figuring out the answers of why we choose to look a certain way to be the biggest key of all. do you feel more yourself when you do these thing? Or just that you “like” yourself better? And why would that be the case? Is it because you see yourself through the eyes of others? While we may “feel” better, or think we feel better temporarily, what’s the reason we do? I think once we uncover this versus being in a people-pleasing or people-aesthetic-pleasing loop, we can make more intuitive decisions. Consider precisely why you do things. Is it best for you, truly? Or best for those who are around you. I don’t think there’s a good or a bad here, but I do worry that the more we modify ourselves, the more we lose ourselves.

While I think that this is also a controversial statement, consider that you intended to incarnate onto this planet in a certain way. Perhaps it was to retain that, but also perhaps it was to modify. As we have more options and opportunities available, it wouldn’t surprise me that we may in fact incarnate with the intention that modification may be in our best interest. 

To sum up, not all modification is bad. It’s simply about interjecting more consciousness into our modifications and the steps and reasonings we take to get there. Try asking yourself these leading questions to get to the “truth” and the reasoning. If it’s hard to come up with, perhaps you yourself are avoiding or in denial of the answer. Consider if there are any small “modifications” you can change, or even reverse. How does it make you feel? Perhaps these experiments can allow us to gain larger insight versus trying to come up with the answer all on our own. You’re perfect either wya, modification or not. But consider that certain routes or approaches may help you be more comfortable with your most authentic self, leading you to more authentic luck and success in this lifetime.