188. Avoiding Fear Prolongs Suffering
I suppose that conceptually the title of this post makes sense. Or does it?
Perhaps some people may see this and do not equate suffering with fears. They equate sufferings with things and circumstances which happen to them. After all, fears tend to “help” us in some sense. But otherwise, they are simply things that we avoid. So how can we suffer from our fears?
There are physical fears in which we’re quite familiar with. For example, some people may be afraid of insects, of heights, etc. However there’s quite a large pool of mental/emotional fears that we can suffer from, as well. Someone may be afraid of isolation or loneliness. Or perhaps fear of failure, and therefore success. There can be as many fears as there are negative experiences and trauma that we may have. If we have a trauma related to our parents, or perhaps an abusive romantic relationship, we may proactively avoid experiences in the future which may “trigger” these things. Let’s say you’ve had a particularly traumatic romantic relationship. You may avoid romantic relationships altogether, or people who may “seem” like them. Perhaps there are places that you won’t go to anymore, which you shared with your previous partner. So much can come from a particular area/aspect of your life, that it can be all-consuming. Consider that even though you may have experienced trauma in a romantic relationship, the themes and concepts related to these traumas likely aren’t even specific to romantic relationships. For example, if your partner made you feel weak and small, and as if you didn’t deserve to take up space, those issues with self-image or self-esteem can really rip their way through multiple areas of your life. When we avoid transmuting this negative energy or these traumas, we sort of “lock” it up inside of ourselves and refuse to access it. These negative energetic “orbs” as I like to call them, simply become these prisms in which we see the world. Things that we want to avoid, things that we are afraid of. They serve as an extremely effective aid in avoidance, overall.
Often times it can be challenging to re-visit negative energy and trauma because we consider revisiting these things to be like “reliving” them. And who wants to do that? Perhaps there’s a belief that revisiting them will mean that you must keep revisiting them over and over again in order to heal. Personally, I find that it’s one of the ways that we can transmute this trauma. But not always required. So long as you’re extremely proactive with seeking out new and interesting opportunities related to the concept and theme which are more hopeful, optimistic and positive, you can start to ‘build up” these positive experiences, and as a result, transmute the old ones out. We have a memory bank of more positive experiences, meaning that our outlook and vibration are more positive overall.
When we “lock up” these negative experiences and trauma, we are really holding ourselves from being the best that we can be. Now, I’m not saying that having any semblance of negative energy or trauma means that you’re not a “perfect” or ideal person. But it really depends on what it is and how deeply it’s affecting your life. I do feel that it’s really important to forgive. If not other people, then just ourselves. We have to come to terms with what we’ve been through, as hard as it may be. I think there’s a lot of sensitivity behind this topic, because people really like to hold on to the guilt, resentment and anger. And it’s quite frankly everyone’s prerogative to do so. But I don’t feel it’s the most effective us of your mental energy and time. It just becomes a burden ultimately which you’ll end up carrying with you as time goes on.
To make matters worse, harboring negative energy or trauma can work against you in terms of law of attraction. Often times we tend to “play out” old scenarios in order to “learn” a lesson based on the particular concept and theme. It’s why people who tend to date those who aren’t good for them keep repeating the same pattern over and over again. But it’s not all about romantic life. I’m sure you can look back on experiences in your life and notice “patterns” of less than ideal behaviors. Consider that patterns can also be mental and emotional ones, as well. It’s really up to us to take responsibility for the negative patterns and loops that we’ve created with ourselves.
The best way to consider what is an issue or a block for us is to observe what we are not hopeful or optimistic about. If we think that we will never find success in a particular pursuit or even area/aspect of life, we definitely have some type of a block. It can either be from a. past trauma, or simply just negative energy overall. And this can be a narrative that we replay for ourselves based on pre-conditioned notions, likely from the perspective of others or societal conditioning as a whole.
There’s this lack of freedom which comes with limiting ourselves in terms of our mental/emotional states, as well as our physical state and behavior. It’s important to have a “clear” channel lack of burdens and again, be hopeful and optimistic of the future. You can break any pattern that you seek to. We are not intended to be “cursed” here in the physical world. We are just simply asked to flow through our learning lessons (hopefully) with a sense of grace.
In addition, I do truly feel that negative energy creates physical problems such as disease, sickness and illness. Spiritual problems can manifest into physical/mental or emotional ones. Everything is inter-connected, which can make it additionally hard to release fears or negative/stagnant energy. I do also feel that the more “stubborn” that we get in our ways, and the older we get, it can be harder. This is why it’s particularly important to have a regular schedule of releasing this energy.
While understanding the concept and theme and proactively seeking out positive experiences is key, it’s also incredibly important to set an intention with yourself and your guides. You can say something like, “I am releasing any fears which are holding me back in this lifetime”, or really anything which you resonate with. Have faith that you will be “guided” to what is the right path or direction for you to do this. The acknowledgement and acceptance aspect of this is really key, and a strong initiator.
It can be incredibly hard and daunting to go through this process. And it’s never a perfect score. It’s just a helpful tool to have to continue to make you feel your best. There’s absolutely no sense in limiting yourself in this lifetime. After all, it is just one life to live. You’ll never be here, at this specific/exact moment quite possibly, ever again. So make the most of it :).
