249. Is Having Multiple Partners A Good Idea?

Something which has been an interesting topic to consider is polyamory or multiple partners versus monogamy. There are lots of debates and discussions on the internet, but is one “right”? Is one more spiritually aligned? Let’s dig in.

We can deduce that the purpose of a romantic relationship or partnership (or even a strong friendship) is to help each other learn, evolve and grow. To not only support each other, but to trigger each other in the best way. Typically in this lifetime, we like to have more serious or committed relationships with more energetic depth and weight. We can of course understand our grief and disappointment when one of these relationships goes away. It can feel like the “death” of a connection, even when that person hasn’t died.

Some may move away from these types of energetic connections, because we ourselves are not at the point or place to reach such energetic depths. I do believe this is often the case when we are single. Perhaps there’s some learning and evolving to do before we “commit”. Of course, being single isn’t bad, it’s just a lifestyle choice. You can certainly feel the most beautiful depths of love and connection not knowing anyone on the planet. So long as you’re connected to source and spirituality. And truthfully, I do believe that although I don’t feel it’s anyone’s “destiny” to be alone, there are some which are on more of an independent journey. Typically, though, independence or isolation is part of an ebb and flow of energy. Ideally we would be in periods of more physical connectedness and others.

So we can mark more committed, long-term relationships as having more energetic depth, as well as allowing for more time, space and opportunity to work through the particular concepts and themes that this connection may bring. But does this mean that those with multiple partners aren’t reaching this? It depends. I do feel that there are desires of those in polyamorous relationships to connect with multiple people, share love, etc. But is this simply an initial process to finding out more of what one likes? Does it bypass the true evolving nature that we need with more monogamous relationships? Perhaps these people don’t need to go through these particular learning lessons. I think it all depends.

IN terms of positives, dating multiple people at once can certainly evolve you at a quicker rate in terms of refining precisely what you want in this lifetime, or the types of connections you’re intending to have. Perhaps this is earlier on in terms of an evolutionary process. Would it be accurate to say that the more evolved you are, the closer and tighter your circle gets? It’s possible.

Consider your intentions for monogamy or not. Are you at all working this way to feed into fear or avoid energetic depth or commitment? Or do you feel it’s in your highest power/belief to do so? It also may be wise to consider your values and goals moving forward. Consider what authentically brings you the most peace. Is this lifestyle one way or another simply due to unrest, societal pressure, or boredom? Our relationships and the types that we have are often times conducive or not in relation to long-term goals and objectives.

It’s not wrong to move forward into a plan from intuitive impulse, but it’s good to consider and re-assess more often than note. This way you’re always one step ahead of the energetic game.