416. Why People Want To Be The Villain

As I’m writing this headline, I’m realizing I wrote a previous post which was, “No More Villains”. Oops. Hopefully this makes… somewhat to moderate sense in relationship to it. But, hey! Things and times change.

I find it interesting how many superhero and villain stories exist. It’s not just in Marvel movies, but in some way shape or form, there’s a kind of hero or villain, even if it’s slight or temporary, in any story that exists. Maybe it’s not personified, or maybe it’s a little ambiguous, but it’s certainly there. If we think about it, dichotomy exists all throughout the universe, which we can theoretically label as “good” and “evil”.

Of course we can often times dramatize “villain” behavior. Being in your “villain era” is essentially a way to walk through the world doing what you want, where you want it and how you want it, likely or at least hoping to reap little to no consequences. Even if those consequences do exist, you can shrug them off quite quickly and you’re onto the next. I do often times feel that people enter their “villain era” after some trauma or hurt. But I do wonder if people are just sick of being exhausted by the needs of other people. Maybe empaths are the most likely group of people to enter their “villain era”.

I’m always struck by the quote, “no one thinks they’re the villain”. Beyond the social media “villain era”, we can note that there are, perceived by the collective to be, “evil” people in the world. Do these people think they’re truly doing good? The answer is of course, always yes, but the distinguishing factor is what are they doing it for. What is motivating them. Are they doing it for their own narcissism and greed? Maybe the warped way that they perceive the world, through their own perception value? Likely, it’s not aligned to their own intuition, and simply giving into their own negative energies or fears. I do sometimes wonder why evil does persist. Not in a way that I don’t think there’s a “god” or ‘higher power”, but perhaps there are times where and when the collective needs evil, as a part of our learning lessons. In a very weird way, maybe these evil people are martyrs. The thing is, we can’t truly ever know for certain. But the one thing we can and do know, is that we’re aware of what a high vibration is, and how to get there. Starvation, murder, enslavement and more are not the way to get there. If you as an individual can confirm what makes you feel good, we can deduce this and apply it to the rest of the collective. Under no circumstances can we enforce human beings to do things beyond their will. But let’s get into the why.

Of course, as mentioned, you can be a villain simply because you don’t know, working off of your own fear and negativity. But there’s also some other interesting keys or clues behind why you may want to be a villain. The term “villain” is a brand in which you can deny almost all responsibility. If you’ve done one or more bad things, you can simply be a “villain” and it excuses all behavior moving forward. It also allows you to not take personal responsibility for what’s done in the past. Perhaps this is a default you choose to align with, or maybe it was a brainwashing technique from someone or something else.

The villain arc is certainly lonely. There’s an inherent disconnect that comes with being the villain. Even if there are people who are like-minded, work for you, and maybe even support you, you don’t hear about villains with parties of friends, or at least true ones they’re authentic and sincere to or with. This can be an excellent default with those who have attachment issues or are distrusting of others. There’s no need to let someone in to help or heal you if you are, for certain, a villain. It’s a great way or excuse to cut people out or have strong/strict boundaries with yourself, enforcing this pattern.

Truly, villain is simply a “label” for what’s already going on. A perfect “excuse” so to speak. But… there’s not a lot of good from being the villain. I would say that being in your villain era should likely be a stepping stone to your hero era. I think, in a way, everyone likely needs to go through it for a bit, so there’s no shame in that. But villain-ery is really just stagnation or destruction, for yourself and others. It may feel good temporarily, but there’s no value long-term. And besides, you don’t want to rack up any bad karma.